Exhibitionism is the act of gaining sexual pleasure from being observed. Those who engage in exhibitionism are called exhibitionists.
What is an Exhibitionist?
An exhibitionist is an individual who becomes sexually excited from being watched. They may want to be observed doing things such as simple tasks, getting undressed, or having sex.*
For exhibitionists activities such as sending or posting sensual photos/videos of themselves, showing affection in public, wearing revealing outfits, or just having a voyeur check them out can excite them.
Those who engage in exhibitionism usually do not want the watcher to join. The thrill is in being watched.
It’s important to remember that even though exhibitionists wish to be watched, it doesn’t mean they want to know that they sexually arouse you. More often than not, they don’t. They don’t hate the idea that it could be happening, but it is rarely the main goal or the goal at all in this type of play.
They want to show others, but this does not mean they have a desire to engage or listen to the watchers’ sexual wants.
Exhibitionists want to show off to others, but this does not mean they have a desire to engage or listen to the wanters’ fantasies.
*Exhibitionists do not want to be observed by just anyone. The person/s observing will have the consent of the exhibitionist.
What Do They Get out of It?
There are many reasons why someone might engage in exhibitionism such as they like the thrill of getting away with it, they enjoy the idea of someone “unknowingly watching them”, they are fond of getting attention or they just enjoy the lack of obligation it offers.
Most of these reasons play off a different taboo, which is part of the reason is so exciting for those who like to engage in it. The last reason, however, provides the exhibitionist with a sense of comfort.
Some relish in the lack of obligation this type of play provides. Allowing them to fully engage with their bodies and pleasure while still being admired. This is especially true for those who do not do as well with physical touch.
Final Thoughts
Exhibitionism is easy to misunderstand and if it’s not practiced carefully it’s very easy to violate the boundaries of others.
Like all things in kink, make sure those around you are being considered. When it comes to practicing public kinks like these, some creativity is needed. Things such as not wearing underwear, or wearing revealing (but appropriate) outfits in public for a partner can be subtle ways to engage in this play without involving strangers.
Or better yet, involve strangers, go to a forum that is made for this type of thing, and post photos. Go to sex meet-ups. All of the people there are consenting so there are no worries about potentially violating others.
What someone wants out of exhibitionism can be complicated. Some want everyone to see, others want only a select few or 1. What each individual desires out of it will be different, so it’s important to discuss their wishes with them personally.
