Kink vs Fetish – What’s the Difference?
Kink and fetish are words that get tossed around a lot, and I see them used interchangeably often. Hell, before all my research, I too used them like synonyms; however, this was incorrect. Yes, Kink and fetish both refer to sexual behavior; but, the way they refer to sexual behavior is different. There’s a big difference between having a Foot Fetish and a Foot Kink. Are you confused yet? If so, keep reading on and find out the real difference between these two commonly (mis)used words!
What’s a Kink?
A Kink, by definition, is an unconventional sexual taste or behavior. Kinks are relative based on social norms and standards. So, for instance, if I live in a society where a majority of people don’t give oral, it would be a kink if I do. An example of some kinks that are generally part of the definition is exhibitionism, voyeurism, bondage, and Sub/dom relationships.
What’s a Fetish?
A Fetish, by definition, is a sexual attraction to an object or body part, but it’s not just any sexual attraction; it’s a required one. The object/part of desire has to be present for the fetishist (person who has the fetish) to receive sexual gratification. This means if someone says they have a high heel fetish, they are saying, “I need to have high heels present to be sexually gratified.” There are many different types of fetishes, and almost anything can be a fetish if it’s a requirement to get off (not a preference).
Lastly, What’s the Difference?
Now, the moment you have all been waiting for! Kink Vs Fetish, what’s the difference? A kink isn’t mandatory like a fetish, and they are completely relative to the social norms from the area you’re from. What some consider a kink, others may not. On the other hand, a fetish is required for sexual gratification; it’s not relative. If the fetishist needs that object or body part present, that is a fetish, regardless of social norms. It’s a definite requirement. So, a person with a foot kink just really likes feet, but a person with a foot fetish needs feet present.