How To Know The Differences Between A Kink & Fetish

To put it simply; If you find yourself unable to get off without a certain action, object or part being present, it’s a fetish. If you merely want a peculiar thing, but don’t require it, it’s a kink.

This means there’s a big difference between having a foot fetish and a foot kink. And knowing that difference can be the key to making good sex great. 

So, What’s a Kink?

A Kink, by definition, is an unconventional sexual taste or behavior. They are relative to social norms and standards.^[1]

For instance, if I live in a society where a majority of people don’t give oral, it would be a kink if I did. 

Some commonly agreed on kinks are exhibitionism, voyeurism, and bondage. 

What’s a Fetish? 

A Fetish is an intense sexual attraction to an activity, object, or body part. ^[2] The presence of this activity, object, or body part is required for a fetishist (person who has the fetish) to receive ample sexual gratification. 

This means if someone says they have a high heel fetish, they are saying, “I need to have high heels present to be sexually gratified.”  

There are many different types of fetishes, and almost anything can be a fetish if it’s a requirement to get off (not a preference).

What’s the Difference?

A kink isn’t mandatory like a fetish. Kinks are also completely relative to the social norms of the area you’re from, unlike fetishes. 

What some consider a kink, others may not. With a fetish, it’s a fetish. Regardless of social norms. 

Why Does it Matter?

The first step to navigating your sex life is learning how you have sex. Knowing why and how something turns you on is the key to increasing sexual satisfaction.

Whether it be a kink or a fetish.

For Fetishists, it could be the difference between sexual gratification or not. 

For a kinkster, it’s the difference between having alright sex and phenomenal sex. 

Final Thoughts

Catering to your unique wants is how you increase sexual desire. Knowing if you have a kink or a fetish can help you change your approach to sex.

So, next time you have sex, keep your wants and needs in mind and see what happens. 

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