Challenge Yourself & Explore the Sexual World of Mental Chastity

Mental chastity refers to a type of chastity play where no restraints are used.

Unlike normal chastity play where a cock cage or belt will be used to prevent the submissive (sub) from touching themselves, mental chastity does not, and it’s not for the weak willed.

What is Chastity (BDSM)? 

If you’re unfamiliar with what classic sexual chastity is or need a refresher read on; if not, skip this section and get to the mental torture!

To fully understand mental chastity, it’s helpful to explain chastity first. 

The word chastity describes that action of abstaining from sex completely. 

BDSM tweaks this term. 

In BDSM, chastity means you abstain from receiving physical pleasure while still engaging in sexual acts.

Why Would You Want This?

What would drive someone to do such a thing? Well, many things. 

For the keyholder of the chastity device, it puts them in the place of power, which can be exhilarating. Especially if you feel you rarely have any. 

For the submissive, the long-term buildup makes orgasms more intense. And the act in self can be degrading, which can be hot as fuck for some.  

It also has the overarching benefit that everything you do is now shrouded in this sexual tension. 

No matter what you get out of chastity, it’s important to know there are different ways to practice it. 

There’s physically enforced chastity, which is using a chastity belt to force someone to abstain. 

Then, there’s mentally enforced chastity which is demanding them not to cum and trusting them to keep their word and punishing them if not. 

Finally! What Is Mental Chastity? 

Mental chastity lets the submissive’s conscience due all the work, instead of a device. As the keyholder, you are putting psychological restraints on them and their sexual behaviors. 

With mental chastity, the submissive is told to abstain from physical pleasure and is expected to comply without a tool to prevent them. 

It’s a test of a submissive’s sheer willpower or lack of it. 

Mental Chastity has all the same benefits as other types of chastity play with the perk of being able to do it on the fly because of the lack of devices. 

How is Mental Chastity Performed?

Once the keyholder gets consent from their submissive, that’s it. 

The keyholder can and usually will do anything in their power to arouse their submissive. And, there isn’t a single thing the sub can do about it unless they want to face the consequences.

This is when the fun begins. It’s time to test your submissive’s will. 

You can use tactics such as degradation, humiliation*, or teasing to get your sub going.  

For me, I like to do things such as bending over too far to get into the fridge, eating suggestive foods, or wearing sexy outfits. 

Make them want you, knowing that they can’t have you. 

Grope them through their pants, give them a taste of pleasure…show them who’s in charge. Leave them yearning for more, knowing they can’t have it.

Play this game for a while. The longer you keep it up, the more heightened their experience will become. And, the stronger the sexual release when they do get to enjoy pleasure. 

*The language in it is gender-normative (male-oriented). The advice-giving can be tweaked for all genders. 

More Advice on Mental Chastity

When you’re ready to be really evil, move on to more direct approaches. 

Try letting your submissive watch you masturbate. Watch them struggle as they try to keep their hands off themselves.

Remember, with mental chastity, it’s important to remind your sub that they can’t touch themselves until you say. 

If it turns them on, mock them for how desperate they look. Or praise them if they prefer that. Shower them in arousal they can’t act on. 

As I’ve said before, keep going as long as you like, hell make yourself cum a couple of times. Use toys. Really mess with their head. 

Watch them crumble for you as they exhibit the maximum amount of self control. Which, for me, is the biggest turn on. 

Consequences

So, your submissive didn’t exhibit the maximum amount of self control? Well, that means some punishments are in order.

There are many ways to punish a sub. 

You can use physical punishments such as spankings and gooning. Or, a more long-term one, like extending the time they must abstain. 

In my case, my slave loves shame. If they break the rules, I berate them. 

“Oh wow, you really couldn’t help yourself, could you? Well, longer it is!”

Then I’ll tease them with an erotic act that I know I won’t allow them to complete. 

Final Thoughts 

Mental Chastity is all about making your partner think they’re never going to cum. Making them think that the only pleasure they’re going to get again is yours! Some may whimper, some may whine, but it’s you who’s in control of their orgasm.

Rule it with an iron fist.