Sex Positive, It’s not just pleasure; It’s about Choice

Last Updated on November 11, 2025 by Lexi Kisses

Sex positivity at the root of it, is about accepting others for the sexual choices they make as long as they don’t harm others. 

What I Mean When I Say Sex Positive

When I say I strive to be a sex-positive person, what I’m saying is I make an active effort to be non-judgmental to all genders and types of sexual activity. 

By an active effort, I mean that I attempt to learn about sex and gender outside of my own so I can have a better understanding of those around me. This means that when I discuss sex, I try to build acceptance towards it instead of shame. 

What I Don’t Mean When I Say Sex Positive 

Unfortunately, there are a fair amount of people who promote sex-positivity in an extremely sex-negative way. What I mean is sometimes I will see sex positivity being used to promote shaming views regarding those with socially normative sex habits.

For me, this is not sex positivity. Sex positivity is not anti-people who don’t have sex. Or anti cis-gendered straights. It’s about accepting everyone for who they are and the sex they want to have; regardless of personal preferences. 

Anyone can be sex-positive because it’s about embracing differences; there’s no need to agree.

Final Thoughts

As long as the people involved are consenting, I don’t care what they are, who they are, or what kind of sex they have, just that they’re enjoying it.