If you’re in the market for an easy-to-read sex book that will blow your mind, look no further than Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski. I can’t guarantee it will “transform” your sex life, but I sure as hell can tell you it did change mine, and it’s for damn sure worth the read! 


Come As You Are By Emily Nagoski is a book that describes its content as “An essential exploration of why and how women’s sexuality works,” but I don’t think that description does it justice. So, I will say, Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski is a sexual (re-)education book that will flip everything you know about sex on its head, regardless of what’s in between your legs. 

I write “regardless” because some will see women’s sexuality and assume, “that doesn’t apply to me. Why should I read it?” Well, I have two things to say to that person; (1) it’s good to learn about others outside of yourself, and (2) I found that the content discussed usually applied to all sexes. The only “issue” you may experience is that the exercises are written for vagina havers. Most of the scientific knowledge is unisex (like arousal non-concordance)! 


It’s a great book; you should go get it. End of review.

No, in all seriousness, Come As You Are is a book I sat down with and couldn’t help but devour. For countless nights I sat up reading this book until my eyes bled, falling asleep with it in my arms. It became my partner and I’s bedtime story, and the knowledge we got from it is irreplaceable.

If you’ve been following my blog long enough or have been binge-reading my materials, you’ll begin to see that my last few articles give credit to this wonderful book. That’s because this book has been responsible for more than one of my sexual epiphanies. To put it straightforwardly, if either of these articles helped you out; The dual control model or The Sexual Response Cycle, go read this book (there’s plenty more where that came from)!

Sorry If it seems like I’m coming off as pushy, it’s because I am. Rarely do I try to shove reading down people’s throats but once and a while, I come across a book that makes me think, “WHY DOESN’T EVERYONE KNOW THIS” and Come as You Are is one of those books. This book debunks sexual stigmas with the help of science, research, and data then it aims to improve your sex life with it, no matter who you are. 

It is worth noting that the writing style may not be palatable for all ages because it’s written with a young crowd in mind (using terms like for realsy in the intro); however, the knowledge and facts are still all there. The content is just packaged in an easy-to-understand and relate-to way (at least to the young adult crowd). If you don’t talk that way, fine, slang may not be your thing; still, I recommend you give the book a try because it makes some pretty valid points. 

Final Thoughts

Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski was hard to review. Not because I didn’t have a lot to say about it, but because I had too much to say. I could vomit out every useful and helpful line in that book, yet it would spoil it, and I don’t think I could explain it better than the author did. I think the reading can offer advice and comfort to people of all sexes, not just the feminine audience it targets. So, if you’re looking for a book about sexual discovery, pick up Come as You Are.

Buy: Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski


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