Last Updated on September 23, 2026 by Lexi Kisses
If you’ve ever muddled through the dozens of websites selling sex toys, you know that picking your first sex toy isn’t easy. There’s different styles, shapes and materials. Some have gimmicks, some have multiple uses. The options are virtually endless.
So, how do you know what to pick? As someone who has bought a lot of flops and bops over the years, I’m here to share my tips on how to buy a sex toy you’ll actually enjoy.
Tip 1: Consider Your Likes
If you masturbate already, or have had other types of sex ask yourself:
- “What sensations do I enjoy the most?”
- Stroking, rubbing, inserting, humping etc.
- “What sensations do I enjoy the least?”
Once you figure this out, find a toy that caters to the types of experiences you find pleasurable and, avoid the toys that don’t.
Try to avoid buying a sex toy just because of its popularity, as this isn’t always an indicator of its success rate. Instead, ask yourself do I enjoy this sensation to begin with? And make your decision from there.
It’s easy to get caught in the hype of buying a sex toy, and forget that not every toy works for everyone.
Tip 2: Keep it Slim and Short
If buying an insertable, I recommend starting with a slim, short toy. This will make it comfortable to use and easy to control; especially if you’re a beginner.
If you’re buying the toy for anal use, make sure that the base is flared to prevent it getting stuck/lost in your ass.
Tip 3: Pay Attention to the Material
If you’re new to sex toys, it’s important to remember that the material matters.
Not all toys on the market are made out of body safe materials. This is because sex toys are technically an unregulated market. So, be cautious when shopping and look out for inert materials.
In general, materials such as silicone, metal or glass are considered safe to use.
Tip 4: Look for a Soft Material
While we’re already on the topic, I also recommend avoiding non-flexible materials such as glass or metal at first. As these materials are hard and could be uncomfortable to use.
Aim to buy a silicone toy because they are flexible, forgiving and just as body safe as metal and glass. Depending on where you choose to buy your toy, many shops have different firmness options for their silicone toys.
Tip 5: Get Something You Find Exciting
Don’t get the toy you think you should have; get the toy you want. With all the options out there it can be tempting to buy a generic popular toy and just call it a day. But, I encourage you to shop around.
Find something you are excited about as it will make the experience of using it a lot more comfortable. It will also make you more open to the pleasure it can bring.
Get a toy in a beautiful color, or an interesting design; it should be appealing to you.
Tip 6: Be Realistic
If the toy you want is elaborate, maybe wait on it. Try to find something that matches your current skill level.
My first sex toy purchase was overzealous and almost ruined my love for sex toys. So, don’t be like me. Get something soft, small and exciting. Preferably that you can use alone so you can play/practice by yourself.
Note: This doesn’t mean the toy can’t be a unique shape or texture, just pay attention to the girth and firmness.
Final Thoughts
Sex toys are more than dildos and strokers. I encourage you to look around and explore what’s out there. And, when in doubt, buy something that excites you. At least, you’ll want to use it.
