3 Sexual Myths that have been Proven Wrong

Last Updated on October 21, 2026 by Lexi Kisses

No truth, no science, just hearsay and false facts; Sexual myths are everywhere in our society, and it makes me want to pull my hair out. 

Sexual Myth #1 Getting Hard/Wet = Sexual Desire

Sexual arousal is not sexual desire. Someone’s body experiencing physical arousal such as getting hard or wet, is no indicator of their mental interest.¹ This concept is also known as arousal non-concordance. 

Sexual Myth #2 Vaginas Get “Loose” from Overuse

The vagina is built to stretch. Its anatomical makeup includes elastic fibers that literally allow the organ to stretch, contort, and return to its original shape. What this means is, having a lot of penetrative sex will not cause the vagina to stretch out permanently. 

There are only two things known to loosen the vagina; a drop in estrogen,usually as a result of menopause, and natural childbirth, which can be traumatic for the body. ²

That extra large dildo? It’s not going to do anything, go for it!

Sexual Myth #3 Vaginal Orgasms Are Common

Sexual pleasure for those with vaginas is more about the vulva. Many studies on vaginal pleasure show that only a small portion of participants orgasm through penetration alone. ³ 

The modern understanding of vaginal pleasure is not focusing on the vagina but instead the CUV(clitourethrovaginal) Complex. 

Final Thoughts

From my perspective, sexual myths often stem from negative views about sex. They tend to try to control the narrative instead of truly looking at it for what it is. What’s a sexual myth you used to believe? How did you find out it was fake? 

1. Álvarez-Muelas, Ana, et al. “Study of Sexual Concordance in Men and Women with Different Typologies of Adherence to the Sexual Double Standard.” International Journal of Clinical and Health Psychology, vol. 22, no. 2, May 2022, p. 100297, https://doi.org/10.1016/j.ijchp.2022.100297. Accessed 10 Nov. 2025[↩]
2. Polland, Allison, et al. “Description of Vaginal Laxity and Prolapse and Correlation with Sexual Function (DeVeLoPS).” Sexual Medicine, vol. 9, no. 6, Dec. 2021, p. 100443, https://doi.org/10.1016/j.esxm.2021.100443. Accessed 10 Nov. 2025.[↩]
3. Pleasure Better. “42 Orgasm Statistics in 2021.” PleasureBetter, pleasurebetter.com/orgasm-statistics/.  Accessed 10 Nov. 2025.[↩]