Myths, by definition, are untrue beliefs that many hold, and there are tons of them out there, especially when it comes to the taboo topic of sex. Sexual myths are everywhere, sometimes they are painted as fact, but I’m here to break it to you; they aren’t. Sexual myths are just that, myths, no truth, no science, just hearsay, and false facts. And, you know what? That makes me want to pull my hair out, it makes me want to scream, but most of all, it makes me want to write an article to debunk some of the most believed sex myths. Oh, and here it is!
Getting Hard or Wet = Arousal
If you consume erotic media, there’s a good chance you have come in contact with the phrases, “I’m so wet” and “I’m so hard” to describe the level of arousal of a person; however, vaginal wetness and penile erectness are not reliable indicators for arousal. They are not reliable because of a common phenomenon known as arousal non-concordance. Arousal non-concordance is the occurrence of when the genitals are not ready for sex, and the brain is, or vice versa. Because of this, I consider it crucial to ask your partner if they are ready, and not just assume by their junk!
Vaginas Get “Loose” from Overuse
The age-old myth that vaginas get loose from penetration has to go. This myth is harmful, sex-negative, and just flat-out scientifically incorrect. The vagina is built to stretch. Its anatomical makeup includes elastic fibers that literally allow the organ to stretch, contort and return to its original shape. What this means is, having a lot of penetrative sex will not cause the vagina to stretch out permanently. There are only two things known to loosen the vagina; a drop in estrogen, usually as a result of menopause, and natural childbirth, which can be traumatic for the body. So, use that extra thick dildo if you want!
Vaginal Orgasms Are Common
The myths about vaginal orgasms being the “default” are obsolete and incorrect. I don’t care what erotica, porn, or Sigmund Freud has said about vaginal orgasms; they are uncommon! Statistics show that only between 18%-30% of vagina havers experience an orgasm through vaginal penetration alone. This means that for 70%-82% of vagina owners pounding the hole alone won’t bring them to ecstasy, and some extra stimulation to the clit might be necessary. If you’re feeling extra adventurous, why not skip the old “in and out” altogether and try one of the other 6 known ways to make a person orgasm.
I’m not a fan of sexual myths, I think most of them have a toxic effect on our social community. A majority of the myths I’ve come in contact with have stemmed from shame and guilt or have induced these emotions in people. Assuming the body is always sexually concordant to the mind causes people to shame their bodies when it is not cooperating with their sexual wants. Having a “loose” vagina is usually used to shame females for being promiscuous. And lastly, thinking that default orgasms are vaginal (internal) makes the majority of vaginas havers “wrong” and “unable to do the ‘normal’ thing” which can cause a lot of emotional turmoil for them. So, let us just agree to drop the sexual myths and start learning about one another’s sexual likes.