3 Sexual Myths that have been Proven Wrong

Last Updated on November 10, 2025 by Lexi Kisses

No truth, no science, just hearsay and false facts. Sexual myths are everywhere in our society, and it makes me want to pull my hair out. 

Sexual Myth #1 Getting Hard/Wet = Arousal

If you consume erotic media, there’s a good chance you have come in contact with the phrases, “I’m so wet” and “I’m so hard” to describe the level of arousal of a person. Unfortunately neither of those are reliable indicators of arousal because arousal non-concordance. 

Arousal non-concordance is the occurrence of when the genitals are not ready for sex, and the brain is, or vice versa. Because of this phenomenon, “hard “ and “wet’ are not trustworthy indicators for arousal.¹

What can be trustworthy, are the words out of your partner’s mouth. Instead of assuming by their junk; ask them if they are ready. 

Sexual Myth #2 Vaginas Get “Loose” from Overuse

The age-old myth that vaginas get loose from penetration has to go. This myth is harmful, sex-negative, and just flat-out scientifically incorrect. 

The vagina is built to stretch. Its anatomical makeup includes elastic fibers that literally allow the organ to stretch, contort, and return to its original shape. What this means is, having a lot of penetrative sex will not cause the vagina to stretch out permanently. 

There are only two things known to loosen the vagina; a drop in estrogen,usually as a result of menopause, and natural childbirth, which can be traumatic for the body.²

That extra large dildo? It’s not going to do anything, go for it!

Sexual Myth #3 Vaginal Orgasms Are Common

The myths about vaginal orgasms being the “default” are obsolete and incorrect. I don’t care what erotica, porn, or Sigmund Freud has said about vaginal orgasms; they are uncommon! 

Statistics show that only between 18%-30% of vagina havers experience an orgasm through vaginal penetration alone.³ This means that for 70%-82% of vagina owners pounding the hole alone won’t bring them to ecstasy, and some extra stimulation to the clit might be necessary. 

If you’re feeling extra adventurous, why not skip the old “in and out” altogether and try one of the other 6 known ways to make a person orgasm?

Final Thoughts

Sexual myths have a toxic effect on our social community. A majority of them stem from shame and guilt. Or excite these emotions in people. Let us just agree to drop the sexual myths and start learning about one another’s sexual desires.

What’s your least favorite sexual myth? And, how did you find out it was fake?

1. Álvarez-Muelas, Ana, et al. “Study of Sexual Concordance in Men and Women with Different Typologies of Adherence to the Sexual Double Standard.” International Journal of Clinical and Health Psychology, vol. 22, no. 2, May 2022, p. 100297, https://doi.org/10.1016/j.ijchp.2022.100297. Accessed 10 Nov. 2025.[↩]
2. Polland, Allison, et al. “Description of Vaginal Laxity and Prolapse and Correlation with Sexual Function (DeVeLoPS).” Sexual Medicine, vol. 9, no. 6, Dec. 2021, p. 100443, https://doi.org/10.1016/j.esxm.2021.100443. Accessed 10 Nov. 2025.[↩]
3. Pleasure Better. “42 Orgasm Statistics in 2021.” PleasureBetter, pleasurebetter.com/orgasm-statistics/. Accessed 10 Nov. 2025.[↩]